As I make the big leap into my thirties — I’m reflecting on all that I learned and experienced in my unforgettable twenties. There are some things I will NEVER do again and there are a lot of things I can’t wait to saddle up for Round 2. My journey has been absolutely amazing and I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world. I’m realizing that everything I thought I needed in order to be happy – I don’t. I’m seeing and feeling EVERYTHING I need to be happy and fulfilled — I already have. When I think of the memories I share with different people in my life – it fills me with so much gratitude that I have so many amazing friends in my life. When I think of the memories I share with my family – it makes me wonder How I Got To Be So Damn Lucky! Below are my top 30 memories from my twenties and the top 30 lessons of my twenties! Here We Go!
Top 30 Lessons!
30: Don’t take side when friends bicker – it’s better to stay out of it and hear both sides of the story. In the end — after hearing both sides — STILL DO NOT TAKE SIDES!
29: Give people space when they need it!
28: Be a friend to your boyfriend.
27: Be a friend to yourself first.
26: 2 wrongs don’t make a right.
25: I learned my character and I’m proud of it!
24: Dream super big.
23: Do not let other’s people ish get in the way of your life! – Live your life!
22: I learned to feel limitless and fearless in my endeavors.
21: Don’t be the victim.
20: Nobody’s perfect.
19: Who cares what a situation looks like to the outside – be honest and truthful with yourself as to what’s going on inside.
18: Watch what people choose to do in challenging / desperate times — it’s often an indicator of character. Heed the warnings.
17: It’s okay to be angry or hurt but it’s how we deal with those painful emotions is what’s important.
16: I need / love mediation in my life!
15: The statement “I’m a grown ass woman” annoys the shit out of me. Being grown doesn’t usually entail having to tell another person.
14: The truth will always be revealed! As a good friend once tweeted – ” you don’t have to remember anything — when you’re telling the truth!”
If we were to truly take the time to stop “asking” for more — * Truly realizing that we really do have everything we need to be happy right now!
13: Don’t take twitter and Facebook too seriously!
12: People can preach the gospel as much as they want — but that doesn’t mean they live the gospel.
11: Don’t do to onto others as you wouldn’t want to be done to you.
10: Don’t make your goals about money — focus on your passion.
9: Never stop doing what you love / or change your life for a man.
8: Do not reward bad behavior under any circumstances! – Set boundaries in ALL relationships!
7: “I’m sorry and I’m trying” — only goes so far. Actions speak louder than words. Observe!
6: Money you loan friends / boyfriends — you may never see again.
5: Loving yourself means taking care of yourself mentally, physically and spiritually.
4: I have the best friends and family a person can ask for.
3: Be Present.
2: Life is hard – but gods made me strong enough to withstand anything life brings me.
1: What’s more important than the prize or reward at the end of the tunnel — are the lessons learned in the journey.
0: Having balance in life is the bomb-diggity!
Bonus Lesson 1: You cannot control everything – and you absolutely cannot control another person’s actions.
Bonus Lesson 2: There is no such thing as a short story when it comes to me! LOL
Bonus Lesson 3: Worrying is just a waste a time.
Bonus Lesson 4: YOGA saved my life!
Bonus Lesson 5: NEVER let anyone / anything interfere negatively with your life. BE okay walking away from ANYTHING.
Bonus Lesson 6: Do not mix dark and light liquors!
Bonus Lesson 7: I cannot sing — not even a little bit. In fact — I’ve lost my right to even sing Happy Birthday to a person. Lip syncing only!
Bonus Lesson 8: Stop being an Enabler! Enabling is not the business!
Bonus Lesson 9: I’m learning to Laugh at the things that I typically take very seriously — LEARNING … I said 😀
Bonus Lesson 10: You don’t have to FORGIVE & FORGET — but at least … Forgive — at some point!
Bonus Lesson 11: Friends don’t let friends tweet depressed!
Top 30 Memories:
30: Creating One Cypher – and producing Styles Upon Styles with Crazy Legs, my partner Dennis in SF and LA.
29: Going to Las Vegas with Moni, George Clinton and the parliament during the pimps and hoes convention! I had the TIME OF MY LIFE! Talk about personalities!!! I was laughing the entire trip!
28: Driving to the Beverly Hills Hotel with Rashida, Angela and Moni to meet PRINCE for the very first time. WOW to much fun! D
27: The Honey Collective 2 Year Anniversary.
26: Graduating from UCLA
27: Dancing at the Billboard Music Awards / AMA’s for Gwen Stefani
26: Just DANCING! .. and dancing … and dancing! My first time auditioning for an agency and made it! I was fearless!
25: Having my FIRST cocktail – Thanks Gretchen!
24: Going to Japan and taking dance classes out there!
23: Meeting my friends from Diego and those memories were / are endless! I miss that house! All the parties, all the dancing, all the crazy personalities, all the great chicken! LOL
22: Working for Disney! The fun I had there was tooo much!
21: Going to Prince’s house for his mid-night Jam Sessions until 7am! WOW! Never forget those times. Dave Chapelle, Maxwell, Fatima, Kweli, Anthony Hamilton, Shelby J and more talents blessin’ that mic! Bottomless cocktails … the foodddddd and those pancakes!
20: Working with the kids at UCLA – for Unite for Green! I love creating with young minds!
19: My round table discussion at FRIDAYS every time I come to the bay with my best girlfriends: Tif and Tiers!
18: Laughing on the phone with Jewels – talking in code about absolutely nothing!
17: Temple bar Memories! – the food, the friends. the music — everything.
16: Producing my first, second and third event.
15: Purchasing my first pair of heals with Moni — I remember thinking my legs looked 10 times better in these miracle shoes!
14: Booking my first print ad/commercial with KSwiss.
13: Discovering downtown LA Fashion District! Uhmmm hello! A women’s haven.
12: Playing kickball with my peoples from Disney! We sucked but it was so much damn fun!
11: Getting my convertible!
10: Every Christmas / Thanksgiving with my family!
9: My parents 40th wedding anniversary and my drunk speech:D
8: Making out on Too Short’s couch — LOL. (not with Too Short) but nontheless on Too Short’s couch. *none of your business who it was with!
7: Going to the Abbey with Gretchen and Mia! (Oh GEEZ) the memories! – Stay away from their margaritas!
6: Going to P’s on my birthday 2 years ago and he sang “purple rain” and I convinced myself he was singing that for me!
5: My nieces and nephew were born!
4: My brother’s wedding and the reception was off the hook!
3: Moving into my own place! What a blessing!
2: Learning to let go of my attachments.
1: The day I decided it was time to make “grown up” decisions! Whooo— hooo!
0: ALLLL the Honey Events!
30’s HERE IS COME!