Category Archives: MY WORLD – DECEMBER 2011



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DECEMBER 31, 2011



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Open Bar Til Midnight
Complimentary Champagne Toast
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9pm – 5am
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For days, years, decades … I’d cruise through life knowing I had as much time in the world to explore, travel, experience new things and make mistakes … Make mistakes … make mistakes?!

It was a cold or maybe really hot day in New York City about two months ago when it dawned on me that I couldn’t keep making the same mistakes.  In my twenties I could make late payments on my TMobile bill only to face a light slap on the hand and and a late fee of $4.95.  I could speed and get a traffic ticket with yet another slap on the hand and a fee of $150 – $300.  I could be late to almost anything and have my tardiness covered by a really good friend who got there on time. Everything was recoverable and fixable.

However, how does one make up for lost time and years that I will never be able to get back from long term bad decisions?

One day I was walking down a New York City street only to realize I was walking down the wrong street.  Not a big deal – I can always turn around make a quick right and then left and be back on track within 5 minutes of the unplanned detour.

This isn’t always the case with some of the decisions we make in life.  As women we can make the wrong decision for a years or decades and this is where my “holy shit” moment came!  There are some mistakes I’ve made in my life where the repercussion is well beyond a hand slap.  For some of these mistakes I can’t get back the years and years of pointless tears or using my “naive” ways as an excuse for it will only keep me in the cycle for years to come.

It was time to make better decisions.

Have you ever had your subconscious, or god or the universe or whatever higher being (you believe in)  try to get through to you and you be to scared to take the leap or make that hard decision?  The message is in your dreams and instances begin to occur on a regular basis  that notify you that are going the wrong way.  I’ve been through this several times in my life touching various life related topics and I’m learning that you can’t IGNORE your journey.  Have you noticed that when we move off course “shit just goes wrong” and nothing goes smoothly.  There are a million “do no proceed” “wrong way” and screaming red flags that throw itself in front of your vehicle at every moment and as relentlessly stubborn humans we ignore every sign  because we think we know better or we’re to scared to take the leap.

It’s time to make better decisions. Recently I’ve surrendered to some of my own painful patterns and when I did … the universe started to give me what I needed to fill the void, overpower the ego and keep me moving in the direction of making better / healthier decisions.   It’s still really hard to break patterns and the emotional process is very up and down but it feels good to know that your making decisions that are in alignment with your values, goals, worth and it’s empowering.

My “holy shit” moment made me realize that I didn’t want to waste my life or time doing anything that no longer serves me or my purpose.  Time is precious and it can filled doing things that bring you happiness and abundance so why waste it?  I want to use this year to create new friendships,  unforgettable memories, mastering what I love to do, learning to cook, exploring New York, laughing, eating, dancing and being the best Me I can be …

That’s when I’m the happiest, most fulfilled and I can offer the most to people in my surroundings.  Cheers to 2012.
My top 10 moments of 2011 –

1:   Re-uniting with my best friend Monica Payne 🙂
2:  Going to Prince’s concert – VIP style, hanging with my long time friends Rashida, Monica and sister Shari and dancing on stage with Prince – That was a farewell I’ll never forget. Thank you Rashida!
3:  Launching Unite for Green at NBA All Star in Los Angeles in collaboration.
4:  Moving to New York City (period) and ALL the growth that came with that decision.
5:  My farewell party in LA and SF – Thank you HC and Franboogie and Miguel E.
6:  Creating new friendships in NYC – I feel pretty darn lucky to have reconnected/connected with some amazing women on the East Coast.
7:  Producing my first large event with Red Bull
8:  My nephew saying my name for the first time “Shel shel”
9:  Launching HC in 3 cities
10: The special moments shared with the people closest to me in 2011.  It has definitely been a transitional year.

The Journey – I was warned but had no idea…


I was combing through my abandoned Blog – only to find this post written 2 months ago.  Enjoy!

I can happily say that I survived …

I moved to NYC in mid June – warned by friends of family of the weather, people, attitudes, hustle … but I had no idea.

The journey felt like the movie SPEED when after each challenge – the broken elevator, the train explosion, the bomb threats  – you swore the movie was coming to an end but NO – there was always more.   This has been my experience moving to NYC.

It began with finding an apartment to live in – I combed over 35 apartments in NYC.  I had an unplanned tour of Queens, Harlem, Manhattan, Brooklyn (BK Heights, Williamsburg, Carols Garden, Crown Heights) and this was done in a two week period in humidity that was unexplainable.  I had initially told my broker that I wanted an apartment in Manhattan on the 2nd floor w/ a washer and dryer, modern and new, high ceilings, closet space and 1200 square footage for …. $?.  He looked at me and said “uh yeah…”

It was no easy task.  In Manhattan the places I saw were old, small and expensive.  After looking at location 14 I decided to call the search for a NYC apartment “Compromise.”  Slowly your list of desired amenities is reduced to “I just want a place to live!” I was hard set on finding a place in Brooklyn.  I found spots that were more expensive than Manhattan but had some crazy rules attached to renting the property.  The fear of homelessness neared.

Well … in the end I found my apartment and it’s perfect. Blood, sweat and luckily no tears – I found her and by “her” I mean the apartment that I’m making my own.  There is no laundry in the building but I’ve found ways to cope by taking the taxi to the nearest laundry mat and handling my business every two weeks or calling for pick up when then there’s no time.

My entire apartment was gut renovated so all appliances are new 🙂  I have an amazing super who comes same day and builds everything for me because god knows that’s just not one of my talents.

1 down — onto transporation …

Since I get lost everywhere I go  – with or without GPS -it only made sense that I got lost on the subway.  Not to mention that NYC is the only place where it’s imperative that you note if a block is a street or avenue.  For the first 3 weeks I had a 3 /10 ratio getting to where I needed to be.  I had to laugh at some point. I made more friends on the subway than anywhere else.  “I’m not from here” It was awesome.

5 months later – I shoulder bump everyone on the subway to get to where I need to be, my patience for bullshit has decreased, I HATE when people stand still in the middle of the side walk (who does that?) and “keep it moving” leaves my lips at least once a day to folks strollin’ on the street versus actually “walking” … true story.
I started a brand new job in New York – it’s been non stop since touching down in NYC.  I eat, sleep and dream about events.  I’ve been so lucky to be able to travel, learn and be amongst some of the coolest people in each of the East BU’s markets. Shout – out to Yaya, Nu and Brad 🙂  I’ve been able to learn so much in a very small amount of time. It was a brutal learning curve but really necessary on a lot of levels.  It was tough being away from all my loved ones and barely having the time to keep in touch due to the craziness that comes with adjustment and moving but … I made it.

Due to this opportunity I’ve been able to visit Seattle, Chicago, DC, Philly, Boston and now I’m going to Madrid this month.  I’m learning a TON and I’ve met some incredible people.  I’m tired as hell but completely inspired by the projects and talents of the people in my business unit. I can’t wait for next year and the slew of events that I’ll get to work on.  I completed my last event for the season in DC this last Monday and it was amazing.  A big shout out to our vendors and team – Ankh Marketing, Media House, Comms, Brooklyn Bodega and the local Red Bull DC team.  Everyone contributed to making it the success that it was!

I’m looking forward to some time to enjoy the city a bit. I started to take dance class with one of my co – workers and getting my upkeep together.  Hair done, nails done …lol & hang out with the friends (that I don’t yet have) that I’ve already had to flake on. LOL.  I found an amazing stylist Christian who is fabulous, gay and makes me laugh to tears.

I say all this to say – learning curves can be brutal but so necessary to push us to reach our very highest potential.